Appointment Scheduling for everyday life
This is one big mystery that i've finally solved.
I don't know about you, but i am always frustrated when friends who agreed to meet up back out last min. The effects are magnified when you have group outings. People won’t realise that they have to attend yoga classes, accompany parents, do essay, attend meetings, go dating until just a few hours before they are supposed to meet you. They back out of the outing last min, yet you can never find enough reason to fault them from doing so. Yet back in your mind, you know that this only means that their yoga classes, their family outings, their school meetings, their dates are more important that you.
Fair enough, but seriously, it jus make you wonder if you should return that favor as well.
I am always the one who organises group outing. Call me a groupie, a group freak, whateva. I am one of those who sincerely believe that groups of friends can and should remain close till the end of time. CCAs friends, classmates, watsoeva... After all, we did share those milestones and wonderful memories in our lives dont we?
The idea of a group outing is so that everyone can gather, hang around, meet up. Of course we don’t always have to stick together, and i do understand that there would definitely be cliques and whatsoever in large groups - I do ask my closer friends out for hang arounds and chit chats too; but group outing do have their own.. err synergy?
The underlying contributing factor to this conflict, quoting from brother fu, there are two kinds of pple:
Those whose scheduling rule is first come first serve, and those that do prioritizing.
I am a first come first serve. If i say that i would turn up for this outing, means that i will. If some more exciting agenda is to be offered on the same day, I’ll try to work around it and make sure I’ll attend both.
For those who aren’t, it doesn’t matter when u ‘booked’ e person. As long as someone or something more important is going to require your attendance on the fateful day, you’ll do the disappearing act. Even if that means it’s only a few hours away from the time we are to meet.
Frustrating and irritating. Seriously. Tragedy is this: most of my friends are prioritizers. Probably that’s the reason why I’ve stopped to organize outings. Simply refused. It is gross when organizing outings make you realize how low you are in their priority. So whats the point?
Yet as a group freak , I do feel uneasy about this. Like… Joyce is back, she said she would org a meet up, yet it has been a month or so. Should I do something?
Tragic. You love them, you hate them.
No, i'm sorry. I'm in no position to hate them. Cant fault them for having more important stuff to do. I can only blame myself for not having enough more important stuff to do.
I don't know about you, but i am always frustrated when friends who agreed to meet up back out last min. The effects are magnified when you have group outings. People won’t realise that they have to attend yoga classes, accompany parents, do essay, attend meetings, go dating until just a few hours before they are supposed to meet you. They back out of the outing last min, yet you can never find enough reason to fault them from doing so. Yet back in your mind, you know that this only means that their yoga classes, their family outings, their school meetings, their dates are more important that you.
Fair enough, but seriously, it jus make you wonder if you should return that favor as well.
I am always the one who organises group outing. Call me a groupie, a group freak, whateva. I am one of those who sincerely believe that groups of friends can and should remain close till the end of time. CCAs friends, classmates, watsoeva... After all, we did share those milestones and wonderful memories in our lives dont we?
The idea of a group outing is so that everyone can gather, hang around, meet up. Of course we don’t always have to stick together, and i do understand that there would definitely be cliques and whatsoever in large groups - I do ask my closer friends out for hang arounds and chit chats too; but group outing do have their own.. err synergy?
The underlying contributing factor to this conflict, quoting from brother fu, there are two kinds of pple:
Those whose scheduling rule is first come first serve, and those that do prioritizing.
I am a first come first serve. If i say that i would turn up for this outing, means that i will. If some more exciting agenda is to be offered on the same day, I’ll try to work around it and make sure I’ll attend both.
For those who aren’t, it doesn’t matter when u ‘booked’ e person. As long as someone or something more important is going to require your attendance on the fateful day, you’ll do the disappearing act. Even if that means it’s only a few hours away from the time we are to meet.
Frustrating and irritating. Seriously. Tragedy is this: most of my friends are prioritizers. Probably that’s the reason why I’ve stopped to organize outings. Simply refused. It is gross when organizing outings make you realize how low you are in their priority. So whats the point?
Yet as a group freak , I do feel uneasy about this. Like… Joyce is back, she said she would org a meet up, yet it has been a month or so. Should I do something?
Tragic. You love them, you hate them.
No, i'm sorry. I'm in no position to hate them. Cant fault them for having more important stuff to do. I can only blame myself for not having enough more important stuff to do.
posted by beetlecar at 1:27 pm
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